Mini Blog 2: "How do I refer to you?"

There is an ongoing debate in the disability community surrounding identity-first and person-first language. Some people believe that person-first language (i.e. "person with disability") is more appropriate.

The rationale: People are not secondary to the disability they have. Disability can greatly impact a person's life, but it does not define who they are as a person. People are more than their disability. It is inappropriate to refer to someone as a disability, rather than a person.

On the other hand, some people believe identity-first language (i.e. "disabled person") is the way to go.

The rationale: Person-first language suggests that disability is a bad thing. While disability can have devastating effects, it is not something to be ashamed of. The language used to describe other identities is typically identity-first. Identity-first language is celebrated, and empowering as such. Identity-first language centers the disabled experience.

Of course, there are people with no particular preference when it comes to the language used to identify disability. Opinions on the matter vary from person to person.

The bottom line: If someone is uncomfortable with the language you use, it may be wise to have a more in depth conversation with them. If either of you feel so strongly about it, talk it out, and make the necessary changes to benefit your relationship.